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Sex, Lies and Japanese Women

I came across a funny blog post, “The Mind of a Japanese Person“, on JapanSoc the other day. It discusses Japanese people’s affinity for downplaying compliments, beating around the bush, being indirect and over-complimenting.  I laughed at the legitimacy of them all but then starting thinking about the the implications of the last one:

“I know if you’ve ever just met and talked to any Japanese person ever, they’ll in every case reply “wow! your japanese is great!” and if it’s a girl they’ll look at you with a shocked expression of pure amazement.”

Shit, I’ve heard that one more than enough times. Fresh off the plane, I even got compliments at the airport for saying domo arigato. But if they’ll blow your head up for something as non-trivial as an accent, what about when bigger, more ego-tripping performances in involved? Like sex?

sex, lies, and japanese women

sex, lies, and japanese women

I still remember my first time getting laid in Japan. Honestly, I was a bit nervous. I had no idea how I had managed to get her back to my place and was even more clueless as to how to initiate sex. But since it had been a while, my urges got the best of me and I just went for it. I soon learned that Japanese girls aren’t that different from Americans once you get them in private.

Anyway, yadda-yadda-yadda, we had sex. But she made some comments throughout the ordeal that I’m now starting to wonder about. Had this been an American chick, I would’ve immediately suspected a lie, but being that I was in Japan, it didn’t cross my mind. Did she bring the culture of over-complimenting to bed?

Possible Lie/Over-Compliment #1

  • The statement – “EehhHH?! Okii!” (big!)
  • Why I didn’t suspect it – I figured I still beat the stereotype.
  • Why I should have been doubtful – No woman has ever said that to me before. Ever. And even I think my dick is small.

Possible Lie/Over-Compliment #2

  • The statement – “That was great! You’re so good at it!” (or something to that effect)
  • Why I didn’t suspect it – What man doesn’t want to believe he just caused a seizure with his penis?
  • Why I should have been doubtful – Did I mention it had been a while since I had last had sex? It didn’t last longer than 3 or 4 minutes.

Possible Lie/Over-Compliment #3

  • The statement – “I came” (or something to that effect)
  • Why I didn’t suspect it – What man doesn’t want to believe he caused a woman to climax? Plus, all my research (Haruki Murakami novels) made it seem like Japanese girls easily hit the high note every time.
  • Why I should have been doubtful – See above. 3 to 4 minutes of sex + maybe 1 minute of foreplay != mind blowing orgasms.

Possible Lie/Over-Compliment #4

  • The statement – “I love you” (said both during and after sex)
  • Why I didn’t suspect it – I was about to come/I had just came and wasn’t really paying attention.
  • Why I should have been doubtful – In this case, I should have been scared the fuck out.


While I have yet to fully unravel the mystery that is the Japanese Woman, I feel that I can say with certainty that if 2 out of 4 of the above possible lies/over-compliments were true, she would’ve come back for more. Instead, she stopped returning my emails after a few days and I haven’t heard from her since. She either hates great sex or was lying/over-complimenting me. I’m going to assume it was the latter.

Though ultimately, it doesn’t matter. At least with her. Sometimes you want to believe those kind of lies/over-compliments and other times you’re just happy to be hearing them. It really depends on the woman and what she means to you. My ego can be shattered by a girlfriend or a wife, but for a one night (or 3 – 4  minute) stand, I’m just happy she’s there.

Have you ever been over-complimented?


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Japanese women aspire to become housewives

I just saw a blog post discussing educated Japanese women aspiring to be housewives.

If educated, city women have those aspirations, then rural, country girls definitely desire it.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

It’s just good to know your target market.

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